How to Deal with Judgment from Others About How You Live Your Life
Heyyyy!
No matter what you do, someone will always have an opinion about it. You could be out here minding your business, eating your favorite ice cream, and someone will still say, “You should’ve picked vanilla instead of chocolate.”
It’s frustrating, isn’t it? Nobody likes being judged, but it happens to everyone. The good news is that you don’t have to let it get to you.
Let’s talk about how to deal with people’s opinions without letting them ruin your peace of mind.
Why Do People Judge?
Let’s figure out why people even judge in the first place. It’s not because your choices are that wild. Most of the time, it’s got nothing to do with you.
Here’s what’s really going on:
1. They’re insecure: Some people criticize because they’re not happy with their own lives. If they see you doing something bold, it reminds them of what they’re too scared to do. So, they judge.
2. They don’t understand: People fear what they don’t get. If your life doesn’t fit into their little box of what’s “normal,” they’ll try to poke holes in it.
3. They’re just bored: Yep, some people judge because they’ve got nothing better to do. You’re living your life, and they’re sitting there trying to find something to talk about.
Why Does Judgment Hurt?
Let’s not pretend like judgment doesn’t hurt, it does. Even when you tell yourself, “I don’t care what anyone thinks,” it can still sting.
It makes you question yourself: Am I doing something wrong? Am I weird for choosing this path?
Judgment feels like someone’s putting a spotlight on you when all you wanted was to quietly live your life. It can mess with your confidence, drain your energy, and make you feel small.
But my dear, their opinions aren’t facts. They’re just noise. And you don’t have to let that noise drown out your voice.
How to Deal with It
Now, let’s talk about how to handle judgment without losing your cool.
1. Own Your Choices
If you’re confident in what you’re doing, other people’s opinions won’t hit as hard. Remind yourself why you’re making these decisions.
Are they making you happy? Are they taking you closer to your goals? Then that’s all that matters.
You don’t need anyone’s approval to live your life. As long as you’re not harming anyone, your choices are yours to make.
2. Laugh It Off
Sometimes, people’s opinions are so ridiculous that the best thing to do is laugh. Imagine someone saying, “You’re really wearing that today?” and you just reply, “Yep, and I look fabulous, don’t I?” Well except your spouse or partner is just looking out for you, haha!
Not everything needs a serious response. Humor is a great way to take the sting out of judgment.
Plus, it shows you’re not bothered and nothing annoys a judgmental person more than realizing they can’t get to you. (I used to take everything seriously. - I still do sometimes but I have cut it low and I'm progressing already) 😊
3. Stop Explaining Yourself
This one’s big: you don’t owe anyone an explanation for your choices. If someone asks, “Why would you do that?” just shrug and say, “Because I want to.”
The more you explain, the more people think they have a say in your life. Spoiler alert: they don’t.
(But make sure you explain to your partner - in my country's tone: You go explain tire) 🤣
4. Set Boundaries.
Some people won’t stop judging, no matter how much you ignore them. For those people, it’s okay to create some distance. You don’t have to let everyone’s opinions into your head.
Think of your mind as your house, not everyone gets to come inside. Keep the doors locked for people who bring negativity.
5. Focus on Your Support System
Spend more time with people who support you and less time worrying about the ones who don’t. Your real friends and family will cheer you on, even if they don’t fully understand your choices. Stick with those people, they’re the ones who matter.
A Little Reality Check…. (my cursor blinked for too long here, haha!)
Most people aren’t even thinking about you as much as you think they are. Sure, they might judge you for a minute, but then they’ll move on to the next thing.
Think about how much time you have to spend judging others. Not much, right? Because you’ve got your own stuff to deal with. It’s the same for everyone else.
People’s opinions are temporary, but your choices are what shape your life.
It’s Your Life, Not Theirs
At the end of the day, you’re the one who has to live with your choices. Not your nosy neighbor, not your critical aunt, and definitely not that random person on social media.
So, ask yourself this: do you want to live a life that makes you happy, or do you want to spend your time trying to make everyone else happy? (Spoiler: you’ll never make everyone happy - Just as you can't please everyone. Someone dear to me sends me a reminder sometimes.)
Live boldly. Wear the outfit. Take the risk. Start the business. Apply for that course. Get your resume in order. Apply for that job. Whatever your hands find to do. Do it.
Say no to things you don’t want to do. Let people judge, they’re going to anyway.
Final Thoughts
The thing about judgment is, that it only has power if you let it. People will always have opinions, but that doesn’t mean you have to take them to heart.
So, the next time someone has something to say about your life, just smile and keep doing you. You’re not here to fit into their box, you’re here to live your life unapologetically.
And if they still have something to say? Well, that sounds like a “them” problem.
Take this step to become part of a supportive network of bold women who aren’t afraid to be vulnerable, feminine, and fierce. It’s time to live life on your terms, embrace your unique path, and grow into the woman you’re meant to be.
Join us, and let’s create a powerful, judgment-free space where each of us can heal and thrive together.
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