Be Bold and Feminine.

  Dearest Gentle reader 😁 I know you might wonder why I haven’t written to you. I wasn’t silent.  You’re always on my mind and so, I want to give you the best. ___________ Dreaming big is scary. You might think about the life you want, filled with freedom, purpose, and joy, and then immediately feel overwhelmed.  Thoughts like, “What if I fail?” or “Where do I even start?” creep in and keep you stuck in the same old routine.  I get it, taking that leap toward the life you’ve always dreamed of feels like stepping into the unknown.  But the life you want is waiting for you. It’s not reserved for “special” people or the super confident.  It’s for anyone bold enough to take that first step, no matter how uncertain they feel.  So, if you’re ready to stop dreaming and start doing, here are five bold steps to help you begin.  1. Get Clear About What You Want Before you can chase your dream life, you need to know what it looks like.  How can you mov...

  Who exactly decided that some jobs or positions are “off-limits” for women?  Like, really, who appointed them the gatekeeper of all things career-related? If it’s your passion, why shouldn’t you be there? Leadership roles, big decisions, and creating impact are all for you to grab. Society has this THING for throwing stereotypes around, especially when you’re on the brink of doing something big or a little outside the box.  You know already: someone always has an opinion on what women should and shouldn’t do, even if they’ve never been in your shoes a day in their life. But all that noise? It doesn’t deserve any space in your head. Criticism is Like Background Music: Tune It Out The moment you start making moves, it’s almost guaranteed that someone, somewhere, will have a comment about it. It’s like society’s unwanted soundtrack: “Are you sure that’s for you?” or “Wow, that’s a lot for a woman.” It’s ridiculous, but it’s real. And it can really wear you down if you let ...

  It’s frustrating, isn’t it? When others try to tell you how long you “should” grieve, hurt, or even heal after something traumatic.  Like, who gets to decide when you’re “done” feeling pain? Your struggles, your emotions, and your path to recovery are yours alone. What's traumatic for you might not be for someone else, and that’s okay. Healing doesn’t have a deadline, and there’s no “normal” way to do it.  But too often, others minimize what you’re going through. Rather than validating your experience, they say things like, “Just move on” or “It’s time to let it go” without trying to understand the situation or be supportive.  And sometimes, without even realizing it, you might start to believe them. You might start to feel like you’re doing something wrong by still feeling the pain or by needing more time. But you’re not.  You deserve a space to feel, to heal, and to be exactly where you are in your journey without fear of judgment. Imagine a safe environment...

  I wish you could see my side-eye every time I hear this question being asked, especially from men. The audacity, right?  It’s like, "Man, she isn’t just the table; she’s the need provider for the table."   Before anyone goes around asking, “What do you bring to the table?” maybe they should make sure that table even exists for you to add to. You can’t bring something to a table that’s not even there. Am I right, my lady? Now, let’s break this down. Here’s what you really bring to the table: 1. You See Needs and Provide Solutions You naturally spot what’s missing. Whether it’s in relationships, family, work, or anything else, you have this radar for identifying needs and filling them. You’re not just bringing value; you’re adding what’s lacking and making things better. Think about it. How many times have you filled a gap without even being asked? That’s your gift. When you bring value, it’s not just surface-level; it’s meaningful.  You see what the situation lacks ...