Give Him SPACE — And Watch His Reaction

 

In relationships, sometimes the best thing you can do is nothing at all, just give him space. 

I know, easier said than done, right? Especially when you feel like you need to step in and fix everything. 

But stepping back can be the most powerful move you’ll ever make. It's not about playing games or making someone chase you, it's about understanding that men need time to process things too. Let him come to you. 

Men Do the Chasing, Not You

This isn’t about manipulation or trying to test someone’s love. It’s about allowing the natural dynamics of a relationship to play out. Men, at their core, like to chase. It’s in their nature. When you’re always the one stepping forward, always the one fixing things after an argument, you take that opportunity away from him. Giving space lets him decide how much effort he’s willing to put in. And trust me, that says a lot more than words ever will.

I learned this the hard way, but it taught me a valuable lesson.

My Story: A Misunderstanding and a New Approach

So, let me share my own experience. I had a misunderstanding with my ex-man not too long ago. It was one of those arguments that left me emotionally drained. I found myself always being the one trying to fix things. I’d talk, explain, and try to meet him halfway over and over again until I was exhausted. It wasn’t that he didn’t care, but his way of dealing with things was different from mine.

This time, after our argument, I decided to do something different. I didn’t reach out. Not because I was being petty or giving him the silent treatment, but because I needed to know if he was invested enough to make the first move. I was done being the one always trying to patch things up.

The Waiting Game

Let me tell you, it wasn’t easy. Giving space sounds simple, but when you’re in the thick of it, it’s tough. Every part of me wanted to text him, call him, just something to break the silence. But I didn’t. I stayed strong, and as hard as it was, I gave him the space to process things in his own time.

Days went by, and honestly, I had moments where I doubted myself. I wondered if this was the end of the relationship. What if he didn’t care enough to reach out? What if he was okay with the distance? 

My mind played all kinds of tricks on me. But deep down, I knew I needed to stick to my plan. I wanted to see if his actions would show me what his words sometimes couldn’t.

The Breakthrough: He Reached Out

And then, it happened. He reached out. Not only that, but he showed up with my favourite flowers which I adore and surprised me with an expensive dinner at a 4-star Indian restaurant. I remember sitting there, across from him, and feeling a rush of relief. But more than that, I felt validated. He had taken the time to reflect, and now he was showing me through his actions that he cared.

That dinner wasn’t just about the flowers or the fancy restaurant, though those were nice touches. It was about the fact that he made the effort. He didn’t just apologize with words; he did something about it. That’s what I needed—actions, not just words. If he hadn’t reached out, I would have known that his level of commitment wasn’t where I needed it to be.

The Power of Space

Giving him space worked because it allowed both of us to step back and reassess. For me, it was about seeing if he would take the initiative. For him, it was likely about processing the argument without feeling rushed or pressured. Space gave us both clarity.

And that’s the thing—sometimes, in relationships, we’re so focused on making things better right away that we don’t give the other person room to reflect. We want instant resolution. 

But relationships don’t work like that. Sometimes, the best thing you can do is step back and let the other person come to their own conclusions.

Why Space is So Important

Space isn’t about creating distance just for the sake of it. It’s about giving both of you the time to think, reflect, and decide what you really want. 

Here’s why it works:

1. It allows him to reflect: When you give a man space, he gets time to think without feeling pressured. If he cares, he’ll start to miss you and realize what’s important to him.

2. It lets you see his level of effort: If he’s invested, he’ll reach out. He’ll take action. Space gives you a clear view of how much effort he’s willing to put into the relationship.

3. It gives you time to focus on yourself: Instead of obsessing over whether he’ll call or text, use the time to focus on yourself. Do the things you love. Rediscover your own passions. When you're happy within yourself, you’re in a better place to assess whether the relationship is truly right for you.

Actions Speak Louder Than Words

When he reached out to me after our argument, I knew it wasn’t just about smoothing things over for the moment. It was about showing me, through his actions, that he was committed to making things work. Flowers, dinner—yes, those were nice gestures but the real message was in the effort he put in. 

If he hadn’t made the effort, I would have had my answer. I would have known that maybe the relationship wasn’t as strong as I thought it was.

Actions always speak louder than words. In relationships, people can say all the right things, but it’s their actions that truly reveal their intentions. Giving him space allowed me to see if he was willing to put in the work, and he did. If he hadn’t, it would have been a clear sign that it was time for me to move on.

Space Isn’t Manipulation

Let me make something clear—giving space isn’t about playing games. It’s not about trying to manipulate someone into chasing you. It’s about respecting yourself enough to not always be the one doing the chasing. It’s about allowing the relationship to flow naturally and seeing if the other person is willing to put in the same effort that you are.

If you’re always the one initiating contact, always the one fixing things, it can start to feel one-sided. Space lets you see if he’s willing to step up. And if he doesn’t? Well, then you’ve got your answer.

The Bottom Line: Let Him Chase

So, if you’re going through something similar if you’re always the one reaching out, always the one fixing things—try giving him space. It’s not about punishing him or playing hard to get. It’s about giving him the chance to show you how much he values the relationship. Let him take the lead. You’ll be surprised by what you see. 

A relationship is not one-sided. Two people come together to make it work.

In the end, if he cares, he’ll reach out. And if he doesn’t, you’ll know. Either way, you’ll have clarity, and that’s something we all deserve in our relationships.

My final words…

• Giving a man space comes with a lot of emotional stress, so if you want to do this, be ready.
• For me at the moment, I might reach out and then watch how he reacts or responds.
• Consistency of a man even after he gives you special treats is important. If his actions are not consistent, then what else would be? You will read more on how things unfolded themselves…

What would you do?

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