Another Heartbreak Story…

 

This man texted me on Instagram about 11 months ago and called me directly shortly after.

Me: He is BOLD 🤔

I’ll admit, it was a bit overwhelming at first. It took some time before I finally accepted his advances, but once I did, everything seemed to flow easily.

The first two or three months felt great—things were smooth, fun, and even refreshing. I thought I had found someone special. But then, as it often happens, “THINGS FELL APART.”

Now, I’m not the kind of person who runs at the first sign of trouble. I believe relationships need work, and I’m more than willing to put in the effort, especially if there’s no abuse involved. So, I tried. I held on, hoping things would get better.

Then, things changed. Suddenly. It was like one day we were cool, and the next, he wasn’t the same person. He didn’t do the things he used to—things that once made me feel valued and appreciated. Even on my birthday, your girl sponsored her party with her money. However, he took me out to several places the next day and sponsored them which I appreciate.

Well, I pushed forward. Maybe he was just going through something. Maybe it was just a rough patch. I had met some of his friends, and he had even taken me to his church.

From the outside looking in, we probably seemed like a cute, solid couple. People probably admired our “friendship,” but little did they know what was actually going on.

We became best friends…or so I thought. We had our ups and downs, like every couple. But some things were off.

When we had misunderstandings, he would go days without talking to me. At first, it was 48 hours of no contact, which was strange but manageable. Then it turned into a week. And then two weeks of complete silence.

Who does that?

If we had an argument or misunderstanding, his solution was to just ignore me. Meanwhile, I’m sitting there confused, trying to figure out what went wrong and how to fix it. And trust me, there was plenty to fix.

He wasn’t acting right, and the signs were all there. Alcohol became a regular thing. He started to disappear into his work, even on weekends. He wouldn’t call me when he was sick, which is odd, right? Instead, his “online in-laws” (his internet friends) were the first to know. And when I confronted him, he always had some excuse.

The phone…oh, the phone. That phone was always on mute when we were together. And when I say he didn’t want me to touch it, I mean he wouldn’t even let me hold it to check the time. Suspicious, right? It was like there was this huge wall between us, and his phone was the symbol of everything he was hiding.

Then came the day that really put the nail in the coffin.

We were at an ice cream shop, and he offered to drop me home afterwards. As we drove, his phone rang...

—Baby... 

I noticed he had forgotten to mute it. Without thinking much of it, I answered the call for him. It was on loudspeaker, and I heard a lady’s voice before the line went dead.

He barked.

He almost lost control of the car trying to grab the phone out of my hand. He was furious that I had answered it and warned me never to try such a thing again. At that moment, I didn’t even need to ask any more questions. I knew what was happening. All the red flags that I had ignored were waving in my face now, demanding attention.

I calmly asked him to drop me off. I didn’t need anyone to preach to me about what to do. My gut had already told me all I needed to know. My friends had warned me too.

They had seen the signs before I did. So, I ended it right then and there. No tears, no drama. Just done. And guess what? He never called or texted me again. Not even a “hey, let’s talk” or “I’m sorry.” Nothing.

I thought to myself, lol.

(And it's over a month since this happened.. haha) 

Trust your gut. If something feels off, it probably is. Don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re being too sensitive or unreasonable. You deserve someone who treats you with respect, honesty, and care.

So, if you’re in a similar situation, take a step back and ask yourself: Am I really happy? And if the answer is no, don’t be afraid to make a decision.

Because sometimes, the best decision you can make is the one that puts your own well-being first.

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If you were in my situation, what would you have done?

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