Be Bold and Feminine.

  I wish you could see my side-eye every time I hear this question being asked, especially from men. The audacity, right?  It’s like, "Man, she isn’t just the table; she’s the need provider for the table."   Before anyone goes around asking, “What do you bring to the table?” maybe they should make sure that table even exists for you to add to. You can’t bring something to a table that’s not even there. Am I right, my lady? Now, let’s break this down. Here’s what you really bring to the table: 1. You See Needs and Provide Solutions You naturally spot what’s missing. Whether it’s in relationships, family, work, or anything else, you have this radar for identifying needs and filling them. You’re not just bringing value; you’re adding what’s lacking and making things better. Think about it. How many times have you filled a gap without even being asked? That’s your gift. When you bring value, it’s not just surface-level; it’s meaningful.  You see what the situation lacks ...

  Growing up as the firstborn daughter in my family, I felt the weight of a unique responsibility.  It’s that silent, shared understanding among many first daughters that we’re not just growing up for ourselves, we’re growing up for our families, too.   There’s a belief that firstborns, especially daughters, are meant to carry the family forward, alongside our younger siblings, guiding them, supporting them, and sometimes even helping our parents in ways that are way beyond our years. My story isn’t unique in this sense. It’s one that so many first daughters live every day, taking on responsibilities early, often without being asked, but simply because we feel it’s our role. The Choice to Be Independent When I was a teenager, I made a promise to myself to work hard and become independent. I didn’t want to rely on anyone else for things I could provide for myself. I wanted to become a woman who had her own value, her own voice, and her own path.  This decision didn’t ...

The first step to move on from an ugly experience as a lady who wants to be bold and feminine is to forgive yourself enough and remember the value you carry. Forgive Yourself First Forgiving yourself means truly loving who you are and deciding to move forward. It doesn’t mean you erase what happened or ignore the hurt, it means you’re ready to stop letting that pain control you.  Forgiveness is like finally dropping a heavy bag you’ve been carrying for way too long. You feel lighter, free, and able to breathe again. By forgiving yourself, you’re saying, “I deserve peace.” That’s powerful. When you forgive, you’re not letting the past define you anymore. You’re choosing to define your own story, and that is where the magic starts. Focus on Growing Better, Day by Day The real power lies in getting a little better every day. Did people judge you, mock you, or doubt you? The best response is simple: become the best version of yourself.  Success, growth, and happiness make the loud...

  I’ve heard it said that women in the professional world are “too bossy” even in their relationships or marriages.  But does this happen to every woman in business, or is it just a few? And why would this even happen?  What’s my take, you may ask? First, let’s explore why this perception exists. If you’re a woman leading a business or holding a professional role, you likely have to be assertive and decisive. This is part of what’s made you successful. But when those same qualities show up in your personal life, does it make you “too bossy,” or is that just a misunderstanding? Is “Bossy” Really the Right Word? Society often expects women to be gentle, nurturing, and easygoing, especially in relationships. So, when you’re assertive or direct, it may seem “too much” to some people, simply because it’s different from those old expectations. Meanwhile, a man in the same role might be praised for his “strength” or “leadership.” Strange, isn’t it? Maya’s Journey from Boss to Pa...